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In which I sometimes neglect to mention important things

As I post throughout the year of course I run into days featuring important events - birthdays, anniversaries, holidays, weddings, homecomings, the times we have bacon…a lineup of special days and celebrations scattered across my calendar. I don’t always mention them here for several reasons including: (a) I forgot; (b) I didn’t post on that day and going back to say “By the way, happy belated _________” seems rather desperate; (c) I don’t want this blog to turn into one long Hallmark card; or (d) I sometimes write about weird stuff and wishing my mom a happy birthday and then telling about the time I almost didn’t make it to the bathroom just feels wrong.

But there is one important thing that happened recently I’ve been meaning to write about and haven’t. Because I’ve just been too busy whining about blisters and all that.

You guys, Dan and I celebrated our 15th wedding anniversary last month!

15!!

I remember feeling like a jaded old married couple on our fifth anniversary and then again on our tenth. And now here we are at 15 and I can scarcely believe it. In only a few more years I will have been married more than half my life - and I’ll bet it feels much longer sometimes to Dan (ka-pwing!).

I make fun of him sometimes but I have an awesomely wonderful husband. Not just for these reasons, but here are a few:

  • When I was doing theater he never, ever complained about my crazy schedule.
  • He has an amazing ability to connect with almost anyone and a talent for being able to say the right thing. (As someone with a more-than-occasional disconnect between my brain and my mouth, that’s pretty awe inspiring.)
  • He’ll get up with the baby at 3 a.m.
  • He still finds me sexy even though right now I’m decidedly on the thick side of “through thick and thin.” Apparently stress eating will do that to you.
  • He’s an amazing dad.
  • He knows how to talk me down from my emotional ledges.
  • He helps with dishes and laundry.
  • He can fix almost anything and, more importantly, he likes fixing things. He loves installing appliances and fixing drippy sinks and changing light bulbs - all without ever having to be asked.
  • He believes in my writing ability, even when I don’t.
  • He keeps the cars full of gas.
  • He is very patient - extremely patient - amazingly patient really.
  • He doesn’t complain when he comes home from work and dinner isn’t even started and the table is covered in sequins and fabric scraps because the girls and I are in the middle of a big craft project.
  • He understands that I need naps.
  • He tolerates my crush on Johnny Depp. I don’t know what he’ll do when Johnny finally realizes I’m his soul mate and shows up at my front door, but I guess we’ll cross that bridge when we come to it.
  • He is a man of flawless integrity, deep faith, and an intense love of country.

Of course we have problems and conflicts just like any other married couple. There are times when we want to slap each other and sometimes we are both really good at playing ostrich. But I’m grateful every day that even during that lowest point of all several years ago, we decided staying together was the right choice for us.

Happy anniversary, hon. I love you.

May 7th, 2008 General-ness Comments ( 4 )

 

4 Responses to “In which I sometimes neglect to mention important things”

  1. jac Says:
    May 8th, 2008 at 5:31 am

    Happy anniversary! Fifteen years is impressive!

  2. Molly Says:
    May 8th, 2008 at 7:40 am

    Happy Anniversary! Fifteen years is awesome!!

  3. blackcrownana Says:
    May 8th, 2008 at 6:16 pm

    HAPPY ANNIVERSARY INDEED! WELL–We have always known what a wonderful, talented, patient, helpful, faithful…. guy your husband is—not to mentin a supurb story teller—but then you don’t give yourself enough credit—you are pretty special too! We love having both of you in our lives! Couldn’t survive without either of you!

  4. Mel-Issa Says:
    May 18th, 2008 at 7:14 pm

    Awwww!! That’s beeeautiful!! It takes a special kind of man to tolerate celebrity crushes…

    Oh, and when that day comes with Johnny, you WILL call me, right? ;-D

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